Here’s Shehnaz Treasurywala’s Open Letter That Is Winning The Internet Today!

In her opinion, Narendra Modi, Shahrukh Khan, Salman Khan, Amir Khan, Sachin Tendulkar and Anil Ambani are the most powerful and influential men in the country. So she pleads to them to do something about the dismal situation with respect to women and rapes in the country. A touching personal story, and few strong words, this letter is winning the internet today, and how! Here’s the full transcript.

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Dear Narendra Modi, Amitabh Bachchan, Sachin Tendulkar, Shahrukh Khan, Salman Khan, Aamir Khan and Anil Ambani,

I am writing to YOU specifically because you are the most powerful and influential MEN in our country.

I am writing to you as a woman who grew up in a middle class family in Mumbai.

I am writing to YOU for HELP!

My parents may not like me saying this. I apologize to them if they are reading but this is NOT MY SHAME. It’s THIER SHAME.

My first experience with the opposite sex, was when I was just 13 and groped by a man (never saw his face but will never forget his hand) while walking in the vegetable market with my mom. She had just given me the worst haircut and as an angry teenager I was upset at her and was lagging behind as she walked ahead. I still remember what I was wearing. It was her dress, mustard with flowers and little bow in the front. How I hate that dress! As if, it was the dress’s fault.

I was shocked at first. Speechless. He disappeared. I just stood there. Tears started pouring out of my innocent eyes. I told my mom who went mad screaming in the market but who knew where that man disappeared to. I still remember the dirty feeling I had and the number of times I showered in my grand-mom’s bathroom after. That feeling never went away.

Since then it was non-stop. I would try to articulate this to my parents and while my mom understood, my dad and uncles told me I was imagining it. Maybe they just couldn’t deal with it. CAN YOU?

When I was 15, I started going by train and bus to St. Xaviers’ College. I was groped and touched and from all angles and this was just how I grew up. Not Just Me but MOST INDIAN WOMEN who don’t have the luxury of cars and drivers.

As a teenager I would dream of and still sometimes dream that I had a machine gun and could kill all the men who tried to grope me. A very disturbing dream for a kid, don’t you think?

I got my first assignment as a model in the FYJC and I had to go to screen-tests straight from college. So I had to dress nice, didn’t make it any easier. I specifically remember the time I went for an audition in a red body suit and a black long skirt with slits. It was HELL! I never wore that again. As if it was the dress’s fault.

I developed ways to defend myself, I always carried a bag in front of me, my fist was always clenched, I always turned around every 20 seconds to check who was behind me and a few times I slapped men who touched me, I got slapped back many times too. Sometimes saved by the public, MOST TIMES NOT.

My mom begged me not to pick fights with men who touched me, she was afraid of acid being thrown at me or that somebody someday would hurt me badly. She is STILL AFRAID and today she told me not to take an UBER to my meeting tomorrow. Hell ya. BAN UBER! Make everyone take responsibility for this.

My sister got into Sophia’s college, we were all excited. She went by bus but the first day she came home, she sobbed traumatized. A man had put his hand in her tee-shirt through her sleeve, the entire bus ride. She just froze. She was a kid too and wasn’t equipped to even understand this. I was LIVID. I’m sorry sis for telling the world this, please don’t stop speaking to me. IT’S NOT Our Shame. It’s THEIRS!

One of my friends in college was RAPED on the train on her way home in the ladies compartment. She was sick and was going home in the 11:15 break. There was nobody in the first class compartment going back to Bandra at that time, it was a superfast meaning it didn’t stop at most stations. He raped her and then jumped off after using her scrunchy (hair tie) to wipe himself. She was the only one on the train and had to limp her way back to her home in Bandra, bleeding profusely. She was just 16. This she felt was her shame so she did not say anything to anyone.

BUT IT ISN’T HER SHAME, it’s THEIR SHAME.

My mom accompanied me to Hyderabad on a shoot once. In churi bazaar, a cyclist groped My MOM. My dear respected and lovely MOM.

Sorry Mom, IT’S NOT Our Shame, It’s THEIR SHAME.

Why am I telling you my personal story?

Well first I want all women to Speak Up.

Let’s make this our MOTTO-

It’s not OUR SHAME, it’s THEIR SHAME.

Who are “THEY”?

“THEY” ARE THE MEN IN OUR COUNTRY.

Not just the rapists and the sexual offenders and gropers but also our Fathers (sorry dad) and Uncles and Brothers and MOVIE STARS AND CRICKETERS AND POLITICIANS for not SAVING US or PROTECTING US by insisting and protesting for the LAWS TO CHANGE and Rapists and Gropers to BE PUNISHED SEVERELY!

Why do we as women have to feel so threatened? WHY has there been no severe action taken? This has gone on for years now. Not just in Delhi but all over our country and yes even in BOMBAY OR MUMBAI OR Whatever the hell you want to call it! It’s NOT SAFE. NO!

My biggest fear ever since I was kid and even today when I walk back home at night from yoga or when I take a rickshaw from a friend’s home is being RAPED. I still feel that fear. I am still am on guard. I still fantasize of having that MACHINE GUN.

In the past 4 years I have been living and working half in India and half in New York and let me tell you I have walked the streets of Harlem, the Bronx and Brooklyn (perceived as the most dangerous in NYC) at3am after parties in short skirts and felt safer than I feel in Bandra at 10 pm on a quiet road fully covered. WHY??

Let’s talk about Delhi our Capital. I was there 2 days ago and the day of the rape. I wanted to go out and walk by India Gate and admire our great monuments but could I?! Why??

What good are all your speeches in the US or Japan or AUSTRALIA- NAMO, if no woman can walk freely in the streets even in broad daylight by herself in the CAPITAL OF OUR COUNTRY. Isn’t this a SHAME? SHAME ON YOU SIR.

This is our NO1 issue. FIX THIS before anything else.

This is a SHAME. And it’s YOUR SHAME. You are now RESPONSIBLE FOR US.

I beg all of you fine gentlemen that I have addressed to help change the LAW.

You are powerful men. I say, SHAME and PUNISH THE Gropers and Sexual offenders severely. KILL THE RAPISTS.

I won’t ask for public castration which is what I want and all the women want because I know this is unrealistic and things move SO DAMN SLOW in our FINE NATION.

All I ask for is the -Death Penalty Please. NOW! QUICK!

If that’s too hard or will take too long then at least LIFE IMPRISONMENT.

Put them away forever.

Why was this man who had raped twice before out on bail?

And then given a drivers license? YES, BAN UBER TOO. Make everyone responsible.

I’m ready to do anything. I’m not a big enough celeb but you Sachin Tendulkar, Amitabh Bachchan, Salman Khan, Sharukh Khan, Aamir Khan, Anil Ambani SIRS- need to speak up as MEN ( you are the men with the power)

SAVE US!

Please demand the Death Sentence for the Rapists.

NO BAIL. Just Death.

Superstars I beg you, please take a stand. Use your Superstardom and Power and MONEY and save the women of our country. SAVE US!

I urge you to protest or go on a fast or do something DRASTIC so people take notice, the government wakes up and CHANGES the LAW so these men are terrified to touch us.

Death to rapists. No bail. Just death.

Imagine Amitabh Bachchan Sir, Aamir Khan, Salmaan Khan, Sachin Tendulkar, Anil Ambani- if you went on a fast or walked to the Rashrtrapati In Delhi. If you, took this stand and made this YOUR NO 1 issue, how much change there would be?!

Why should we as women feel so unsafe in our motherland?!

Why should we as women be terrified and on guard all the time.

Why was this man out on bail after committed two rapes already ?

Make an Example Of Him.

Any man who even touches a woman should be imprisoned for life.

Be strict, make examples of these men, scare those who dare to touch us.

SCARE THEM BY MAKING AN EXAMPLE OUT OF THEM.

SAVE US, Save your mother, daughter, sister please!

This is NOT OUR SHAME.

THIS IS YOURS.

SHAME ON YOU.

Don’t sleep till you- SAVE YOUR WOMEN!

With all respect,

Shenaz Treasurywala

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20 thoughts on “Here’s Shehnaz Treasurywala’s Open Letter That Is Winning The Internet Today!

  1. Nice approach and fair way to address…BUT WHAT CHANGE IN LAW CAN HELP YOU IF YOU DON’T GO AND COMPLAINT. Nowhere in any of the incidents victim stepped to complaint legally….ITS THEIR SHAME NOT URS…why r u stopping urself to do the necessary things.
    M a guy may be I can’t understand what girls deal with, but I see and try to stop such activities this is best we can do…death penalties YES for those who are proved as culprits….coz recently we saw girls using such powers to blackmail guys….this is where law takes time…we cant just simply complaint and ask for death penalty.
    And sisters I would really appreciate if you take fair decision, STEP AHEAD WE ARE WITH YOU.

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    • Death???? itni asan punishment nai milni chahiee….kya wo nai jante unki esi harkatto ki wajah se hum kitna suffer karte haiii…….unhe bhi suffer karna chahie…….gender change karwadena chahie and half burn kardo unki body ko or kahooo ab ji ke dikhao…….
      punishment of death to unhe milni chahie jo himat karte he hume chune ki…..but who raped unhe itni asan maut nai milni chahie

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  2. Salute u girl.. Yes SHAME ON YOU this is not OUR SHAME. All are busy in cleaning India making various laws but no one is paying attention on girls safety . What would you do wid clean India dis most dirty and cruel act of humanity is continuing. First you have to clean these typ of people . Make women feel safe . that wil b in true sense CLEAN INDIA . All should understand you r dishonoring your source of birth she only is not safe. Her SAFETY should b NO. 1

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  3. Shehnaaz is the one who dared to speak up for not only herself but all the women in our society as a whole…. What fear does she deserves to live in even after being established as a known face in the industry?
    But she cares for the ones who are now passing through the phase which she once did…. I support her! For the fact she spoke and letting us know this important aspect of our society,i.e. IT’S NOT OUR SHAME (Her), IT’S THEIR SHAME!!

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  4. Ya this is so dam true….the plight of Indian girls n women…n its not changed…I used to dream of that machine gun as well….as in hope dat it will make me feel safe on Indian streets…

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  5. Three things,

    1. I don’t think it is right to impose what we think is important to us on others, no matter how popular or normal other person is. Every person has his own goals, and you should appeal your cause to that person within the context of his goals. So you should tell NaMo or AB or others as to why it is important for him to promote safety of women, NOT why it is important for you.

    2. The punishment should be proportional to crime. And the purpose of law should be to define proportional punishment, devise ways of implementation, and ensure consistency. So whether possible or not, castration I don’t think is a valid punishment for rape. I won’t go into the details of reasoning though, suffice to say that castration is much more unnatural than rape. Life imprisonment I think is justified, and death sentence if the rape is objectively verified and “very violent”.

    Uber deserves minor penalty as it looks minor negligence on their part(they did not track ride). Police and law officials who might not investigated the offender, or issued improper certificates are more liable.

    Regarding,
    “Any man who even touches a woman should be imprisoned for life.”
    Life-imprisonment for touching is clearly disproportional. Many a time touching in public places can be accidental. Even if the touching is deliberate and unnecessary, more than few weeks to months of sentence(depending on severity) does not look proportional. If somebody gets into lifelong trauma on being touched, counselling not law is the solution.

    3. Thirdly, while most of the time it is not advisable to go into the personal motives of person, sometimes it is. And in this situation, given the greatly personal anecdotes lady has shared, I think I should. In 2005 she had come to Forum mall, Kormangala, Bangalore for a commercial event. In the event one of my batchmates was called on stage and did something. Later he asked if he could kiss this lady(on cheek), and she agreed. While I don’t have anything against kiss at first sight, but don’t claim to go into lifelong trauma on being groped, if you don’t have any objection in taking unobligated kiss from stranger in a public event.

    All in all, whether rape or harassment or dowry, objective evidence and well defined universal principles should be the criteria for punishment. Certainly not emotional public hysteria.

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  6. I feel that women could take advantage of any laws against men. I dont say that they will but there is a possibility to it right?! And readers please dont feel that I am justifying any criminal or any person with criminal intent.

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  7. Shehnaz,
    I am so touched reading your article. But you speak our voice, our concern and our fear as a father,husband and brother or as a human. I have a young beautiful daughter age 04 years and I live in a decent place and society but we even fear her rape. Any time, she is late playing out, we get so restless about her, we run grab her and get back home. It is not my fear only, it is fear of entire society. and my daughter always ask us WHY? CAN’T ANSWER HER!
    Been listening from ages about women empowerment, corruption free country. All waste, as you said rightly, make a rape free country. I have been visiting few countries, I must tell you, our country is most unsafe place for women.
    Of course a capital punishment is must, may be a death sentence but IT IS RESPONSIBILITY OF GOVERNMENT TO ENSURE LAW AND ORDER.
    You ban N number of taxi company, still you will have rape, because fear for law is minimal among criminals.
    Yes, you are right, Shame on Namo,
    IF HE CAN’T DO THE CHANGE. I AM GREAT SUPPORTER OF YOU NAMO, IF YOU DISAPPOINT US, IT IS THE END OF OUR HOPE. ALL JOKERS POLITICIAN WILL COME WITH DIFFERENT SLOGAN BUT THIS TIME IT IS YOU NAMO ( AS AN INDIVIDUAL, FORGET PARTY), WHOM WE WE HAVE CHOSEN FOR FORTUNE CHANGE. DO NOT DISAPPOINT.

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  8. Death???? itni asan punishment nai milni chahiee….kya wo nai jante unki esi harkatto ki wajah se hum kitna suffer karte haiii…….unhe bhi suffer karna chahie…….gender change karwadena chahie and half burn kardo unki body ko or kahooo ab ji ke dikhao…….
    punishment of death to unhe milni chahie jo himat karte he hume chune ki…..but who raped unhe itni asan maut nai milni chahie

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  9. Kyaa aap jantee he me bhi unmese ek ladki huu jissske esa hta hh…..day tym me bhi boyzz hume front pe touch karke kab bhag jaate he pata nai chalta…..kai barr koshish karte unhe chamat marne ko but sumtimes fail…..pehle touch karte hai then sorry bolke nikal jaate hai undhe hai kya unhe dikhta nai space nai h jaane ko???? kya do min ruk nai sakte????? kya wo esi harkatt apni family me bhi karte hh????

    please help us…..its not easy for for a girl to be outside the door whyyy…sirf hum q daaree….unhe bhi daarr lagna chahie agar wo esa kuch karte he tooo

    law me change hona chahieee
    esi punishment ho jisse in ladko ki watt lagg jaee…..chahe wo ladka koi bhi hooo……mera bhai hi kyu naa hoo galat karega to maar do

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  10. How shame humri behane apni maatr bhumi….apni maa ke godd me hi safe nai hee…..kaha jaengi ye fir?????? change the law and hit them……

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  11. mujhe bhi kai baar ladke touch karte hhee…..or badme bhag jaate he kai baar me roiii kai barr unhe maara bhi par insabse kyaa hum safe hee…..unhe bhi punishment milni chahie jo ese gandi harkat karte hee……safe women safe ur country

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  12. I am with Shenaz. What so ever she is expecting or demanding is very little. These guys are really sick and has no right to move freely in public. People should unite and LYNCH them till we do not get support from the concerned authorities / govt. Beleive me no celebrity will come forward since they are happy, busy n safe in their life. Jo bhi karna hai hum ko khud hi karna hai.

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