It’s not uncommon to see a matrimonial ad in the newspaper, they are flooded with it. Mothers want a slim, fair and ‘sanskari’ girl for their sons, and Fathers want a hard-working ‘family bijness’ boy fir their daughters. (Excuse the cliches)
But it is the first time in India that a gay ‘groom wanted‘ ad has been placed in a newspaper! MAJOR CELEBRATIONS!
While it did attract some controversy (caste preferences, obviously), the initiative is a big step in the right direction.
In a groundbbreaking move, this Mumbai Mother placed a matrimonial advertisement for her son in ‘Mid Day’ which got an overwhelming support on social media (like this post itself). Harrish Iyer, now 36 years old (the-groom-to-be), is in fact a popular figure in the LGBT community of India.
“I am getting old. I want my son to find a companion before I leave the world. A male companion,” said Harrish’s mom, Padma.
The ad read as follows :
‘Seeking, 25-40, well-placed, animal-loving, vegetarian groom for my son (36, 5’11), who works with an NGO. Caste no bar (Though Iyer Preferred)’
Same old same old “Hey yo my son’s tall and we are biased with caste, but we want you!”, and yet such a strong move towards sexual orientation equality. Oh and btw, this mother has already got two responses!
However, it wasn’t easy to get this ad published. Apparently, a couple of newspapers had declined the ad, basing legal reasons. (What bullshit, you cowards)
Mid Day probably was the only one with some grey in their head.
It would have been a lot better if the ad had stopped at ‘caste no bar’. Because caste, much like gender and sexual preferences, is the basis of so much discrimination and injustice in our country, and it jars a bit when a social comment that seeks one kind of equality fails to embrace others.
Here’s how the to-be-groom responded to something similar on Twitter
No matter what, this mother has won a lot of hearts today! Cheers to her!